How Do You Speak of God?


  In my childhood church, when we prayed, we always prayed to our “Heavenly Father” and we called God “He.”   I was taught God was male. Case closed. And because this was true, if you really wanted to be seen as extra holy, you’d be sure to capitalize in writing any pronoun reference for
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Why I Support Equality of Marriage


It was a big day yesterday. A BIG day. A day so many of us will remember where we were when we heard the news. Marriage is just marriage. It’s now the law of the land. In light of this, I thought it might be a great opportunity to revisit a post I wrote back
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How Do I Know When To ______?


As a pastor I am often asked by people: “How do I know when to________?” For example, I hear you say: How do I know when to ask her to marry me? How do I know when to sign up for an online dating account? How do I know when to pursue conversation with my
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When We Hit the Hard Place #Charleston


A Sermon Preached at Broadneck Baptist Church, Annapolis, MD from Mark 4: 35-41 This is how our gospel lesson opens: Jesus speaks. It’s an abrupt beginning (as most movement in Mark’s gospel is) where Jesus gives a vague description of what’s up ahead. And this is what Jesus says to his followers: “Let’s go across to
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How Long Will You Grieve?


A sermon preached at the Martin Luther King, Jr. Christian Church, Reston, VA on the occasion of Rev. Dr. Jean Robinson-Casey’s anniversary as pastor  1 Samuel 15:34-16:13 A kindergarten teacher gave her class a “show and tell” assignment. She said: bring something to school tomorrow that represents your religion. The first child got in front
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Not So Perfect


This week, I attended the inaugural writing workshop of the Frederick Buechner Center at Princeton University. I was excited to re-connect with pastoral colleagues and hear one of my preaching sheros, Barbara Brown Taylor talk about writing. During the Q&A time of Taylor’s last morning lecture on telling the truth in writing (great topic, right?),
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The Shoulds, the Woulds, and the Marble Jar


Who do you trust? When do you trust more? Why do you trust less? These are questions I think about a lot as pastor who helps others talk about their relationships, as a friend who wants to listen well and as person who cares about the health of my soul. Throughout my life, like many
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Love’s Biggest Problem


Who said love didn’t hurt? If the tears that I’ve cried the last month could tell a story in their puddles, you’d most assuredly see that love, while beautiful comes with pain. I’ve cried with the staff of Honduras’ and Kenya’s Feed the Children’s employees and the children who are part of these very special
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