Where do you belong? To whom to you belong? I’ve been thinking about this a lot this week realizing that . . . Most of our definitions of what it means to belong comes with constraints like rules and regulations. If you want to belong to a gym, you’ve got to pay a monthly fee …
Brene Brown
Do You Have the Courage to Show Up?
Do you have the courage to show up to hard conversations? It’s no secret that courage is in high demand in these times we’re living in. In our polarized everything culture right now, it’s so easy to un-follow our social media “friends” who don’t believe as we do. It’s easy to worship, work and play only …
Shame, shame, go away!
Want break up a conversation in a room? Say the word shame. Everyone stops talking. I know this first hand from the experiences I’ve had this spring promoting Birthed: Finding Grace Through Infertility. One word has risen to define so many of the talks I’ve given is SHAME. You can’t speak about infertility without talking about …
Re-Thinking Thanksgiving
It’s Thanksgiving week in the United States, that time of year when we all start thinking a little more precisely about what it means to be thankful. In my household, Thanksgiving always including making an “I’m thankful for…” list. It’s a beloved pre-thanksgiving meal activity I’ve participated in since childhood when my grandmother would ask …
One Secret to Happiness
There are popular misconceptions when it comes to happiness. Happiness defined as a delightful look on your face all the time. Happiness as “How are you doing?” conversations concluding with an “I’m doing just great!” ending. Happiness as having a great golf record or a perfect manicure. Defining happiness in this way makes us feel good …
The Shoulds, the Woulds, and the Marble Jar
Who do you trust? When do you trust more? Why do you trust less? These are questions I think about a lot as pastor who helps others talk about their relationships, as a friend who wants to listen well and as person who cares about the health of my soul. Throughout my life, like many …
4 Things that Perfection Costs Us
Several years ago I heard a tv special in which TV actress Jane Fonda said this about life: “We are not meant to be perfect. We are meant to be whole.” Hearing it was one of those stop me in my tracks kind of moments because what truth! I need to say it again: We …
